Friday, January 11, 2008

NO POINTING FINGERS


A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"


The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

Shama (Forgiveness)
Is the tool with which indian saints of the past and present have guided the society to its present status! The power to forgive, the biggest and most effective tool to conquer even the staunchest enemy is but a matter of record. An instrument of love which never fails ... come whatsoever may!!

Animosity brings with itself venegeance. You have to prevent yourself getting caught in the whirlpool of Ego, which drowns even the stauncest never to rise again! Salvage what you earn in this life ... Who knows what life you may inherit next!!

Shama (forgiveness) is the tool which was practiced by all, without exception! Lord Krishna, Mahavira, Buddha, Christ and prophet Mohammed ... none could do without it! Every society has its share of scavengers, who may stoop low. Left with no alternative one has to learn to forgive others. The ecstasy one feels after forgiving the perpetrators of crime cannot be explained in words ... Ananda which no other Karma can give!!

TRUST


TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
Trust is not just essential in personal relationships but in all walks of life. Everyday we rely on the information shared from our fellow colleagues & we then do something based on this information. I guess, this is again an example of trust. There are times, if one hears different stories from various sources about the same thing/s but the stronger factor will always be trust factor which will help you take a decision on the problem or issue. So be sure you are true to what you do, since you trust someone & that someone trusts you which builds relationship.
cheers..

Monday, January 7, 2008

A BEAUTIFUL STORY from Corey Breier

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.


The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.


The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.


As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.


One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.


Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out of the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window?


The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."


Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy. "


Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."